What is unique about your thoughts

Power of thoughts: How you can influence your feelings and behavior

Have you ever heard of the Power of thought heard? Everything that happens in your life affects you. And that doesn't matter how challenging the situation is. How exactly individual situations affect you depends entirely on how you approach the corresponding one Assess the situation.

One and the same situation can be perceived differently and uniquely in their own way by 10 different people. This has the consequence that everyone reacts differently to this situation and also feels different.

And the big difference is the thoughts of each individual.

It's not just the situation that makes you feel

Take as an example that someone you know reasonably well does not greet you. If you can now fully concretely introduce and you put in the situation then that does something to you.

Imagine how someone who actually knows you and usually greets you does not greet you this time. What does that do to you?

A feeling, a mood arises, your body reacts to it and the desire to act arises.

In this example, you can now think that the situation is responsible for your feeling and acting in a certain way.

Is that so?!

There are now, however different ways to experience this situation.

The one like that at all do not bother.

In which other arouses self-doubt.

In turn another insulted those inside.

Another another is simple amazed.

If the situation is to be responsible for your feelings, then everyone should have the same feelings in the situation.

But none of them definitely havet!

Now the question arises, how can it be that every person reacts differently to the same situations?

Why do people perceive situations differently?

Everyone perceives the world and reality differently. That has something to do with what experience each individual did in his life. So how the autopilot is programmed.

For example, if you have always felt that you are to blame for everything, then you will also look to yourself in this situation.

If you are someone who takes relatively little personally anyway, then you do not relate that to yourself at first, but can imagine the different reasons that the other person does not greet you.

However, if you feel offended, then you accuse the other person of deliberately not greeting you.

So your experiences and what you have learned in your life, have an impact on how you interpret life and the world.

Each of the individual people has developed different thoughts about the situation. Some also think more about it and others less.

The Content of these thoughts iis important. This is because this is partly responsible for how you ultimately feel and how you act.

Your own assessment, i.e. your thoughts, plays a role in how you experience and perceive a situation and react to it.

This intermediate step is important!

Often times we feel like the situation or someone else is responsible for how we feel and act. Our own evaluation, i.e. the power of thoughts, plays the main role.

For example, if you feel offended by the situation described at the beginning, you automatically assume that the other person has bad intentions towards you. You have no real facts that this is the case.

The feeling that resonates is a mixture of anger and depression.

You could also have thought "Man, Felix but is under stress, he doesn't notice anything anymore ”. Here, too, you would imply something to your counterpart without you knowing that it is so. However, it comes with this thought to compassion rather than anger.

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But the example makes it clear that the thought that stands between the situation and your feeling plays a decisive role.

So if your assessment of a situation is related to your subsequent reactions and feelings, then you can use the power of thoughts to influence your well-being the other way around.

A concrete example

Let's take another example.

You meet an attractive man or woman and you meet a few times. You have a great feeling and you are really happy. And the next day comes the following Whatsapp message:

"Hey you! Sorry, I've been thinking about this for the last few days with us and I'm, I think, just not in love with you. I'm so sorry. "

You then think:

"Oh no, always me! Nobody likes me! I'm just not worth it! The others are just a lot more interesting and prettier than me "

What does that do to youif you read this and actually believe what it says?

Whoa !! You feel really bad. Like a pile of misery.

Perhaps the example does not apply to you and you can think of another example. An example where you notice that the thoughts you are giving yourself to the situation do not help at all, but rather pull you down.

If you have now recognized yourself in the pattern or have found another suitable example, you might think to yourself.

β€œAll well and good, but I can't change my mind. They just come like that! Zack! Even if I don't want to! "

It is true that thoughts and evaluations often just come up, even though we don't want them to. That has something to do with our autopilot again.

It is important, however, that it is It is up to you whether you want to believe the content. And you can also consciously use the power of thoughts to bring you to a suitable, helpful feeling and behavior.

In principle, you don't need to believe your thoughts at first! And can develop counter-thoughts.

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5 Steps Guide to Harnessing the Power of Thought

If you want to change your thinking and behavior patterns, you can of course not just at the push of a button...

To make a change, you have to go through several steps and practice over and over:

1. Questioning situations in retrospect

First of all, you have to question yourself in different situations with the help of self-reflection in order to even get on the track of inappropriate thoughts. For example: "I can't do it anyway!"Or:"The others are much better.”

2. Occupy yourself with the thoughts

If you have found a thought that you do not find helpful, then you can deal with this and question him curiously. You could ask how do you know it's what you think it is. If you asked a good friend, would they be of the same opinion as you?

3. What could be helpful alternative thoughts?

If one thought doesn't help you, what could alternative thoughts be? Which thoughts are still realistic in the situation? And how do you feel with these?

4. Recognize the situation through mindfulness and change it if necessary

The next step is the situation in which you are prone to the unhelpful thoughts, to recognize in the moment. The principle of Mindfulness can help you there. We have explained in detail in a post how mindfulness works like a Buffer between the situation and your reaction, in this case your thoughts and your feelings can put.

5. Change your mind

You have now created a space for yourself in which you can decide whether you want to hear the thought that arises believe or prefer alternative thoughts want to develop. It is now up to you to use the power of thought.


Three final thoughts

Thoughts tell stories to you and your brain

Perhaps so far you mostly know the stories about your autopilot. So that you interpret the world as you have learned it so far in your life.

Your brain doesn't differentiate whether you are imagining something with the help of your thoughts or whether it is reality is. That means you always create your own truth. If this is completely unrealistic and strongly deviates from the truths of your fellow human beings, then this can lead to problems.

On the other hand, you can use the power of thought or well imagination use to your advantage. For example, you can get through sole imagining calm and generate stress-reducing thoughts and let go of tension.

The point is not that you always feel joy and wellbeing

We need all of our feelings:Fear, shame, joy, anger, disgust, etc. Feelings give us clues about what needs we have. For example, if someone comes too close while you are talking and you feel uncomfortable, it makes you change something.

For example, you ask them to go back a little. Or you take a step back yourself. This is how you take care of yourself. However, if you were to yell at them, it would be an exaggeration in this situation.

Here it makes sense to question this situation as described above and to apply any alternative ideas.

In the long run, it is not enough just to change your thoughts and behavior without understanding the cause.

Often unmet needs from the past are related to your thoughts, behaviors, and feelings today. Without this understanding, a superficial change in thoughts and behavior can feel wrong.

But if you understand that you are still chasing after an unsatisfied need from your childhood, for example, then you have a deeper intention to change and heal deeper wounds, stay true to yourself and involve yourself.

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